I received this book for free from Netgalley for review consideration, opinions expressed are 100% my own. This post contains affiliate links as indicated by an asterisk. Purchases from these links provides a small commission to me at no extra cost to you.The Good Mother Myth by Various Mothers. Edited by Avital Norman Nathman
Published by Seal Press on Dec. 31, 2013
Genres: Nonfiction, Parenting
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A well-written, heartfelt and often serious look at our perceptions of a "Good Mother" and embracing reality.
Synopsis from Goodreads:
“In an era of mommy blogs, Pinterest, and Facebook, The Good Mother Myth dismantles the social media-fed notion of what it means to be a good mother. This collection of essays takes a realistic look at motherhood and provides a platform for real voices and raw stories, each adding to the narrative of motherhood we don’t tend to see in the headlines or on the news.
From tales of mind-bending, panic-inducing overwhelm to a reflection on using weed instead of wine to deal with the terrible twos, the honesty of the essays creates a community of mothers who refuse to feel like they’re in competition with others, or with the notion of the ideal mom — they’re just trying to find a way to make it work.
With a foreword by Christy Turlington Burns and a contributor list that includes Jessica Valenti, Sharon Lerner, Lisa Duggan, and many more, this remarkable collection seeks to debunk the myth and offer some honesty about what it means to be a mother.”
What’s your definition of a “Good Mother?” Before I had kids, my definition was simply a loving mother that is always there for them, to support them in becoming intelligent and responsible community members and help them achieve their dreams.
Somewhere along the way, between the full time job, 3 highly active and spirited sons, my sons starting school, media hype and Pinterest, my vision of a Good Mother changed. Was I only a Good Mother if I could keep up with all the dedicated Supermoms in the PTA or Stepford Wives with perfectly behaved kids and spotless houses who never lost their patience?
I am glad to have received an advance copy of this book from Netgalley. I love that this book got me thinking about how I define a Good Mother and what I aspire to be for my children. I found each of the essays well-written and each evoking an emotional response with me. I found thankfulness reading Christy Turlington’s essay that my 3 sons were born without complication when so many women around the world lose their life in childbirth. I found compassion for the single mothers filling dual roles of mother and father. I found empathy for the agnostic mother raising her child Catholic despite the soul-searching and answers to her questions about faith she was still trying to resolve. I found anger that the African-American mother is still fighting racial stereotyping, assumptions about her marital status and her ability to be a Good Mother. I found each easy to be heartfelt though taking a serious look at how each mother viewed what a good mother was and how she overcame that perception to be the best mother for her child.
Motherhood has been a difficult journey for me. When someone tells you it’s the most difficult thing they ever done, believe them. No other job would I pour my heart and soul into it completely. No other job would my happiness rest in the well-being of these 3 little men. No other job would give me the greatest of joys from the simplest of moments. Motherhood isn’t easy but it’s the most rewarding job I have ever done. My kids have my promise that I certainly won’t be perfect but I will be the best mother that I can be.
Now, let me get back to Pinterest so I can attempt to throw my kid the best birthday party our budget can get him 🙂 …it won’t be perfect, but I will try my best.
What do you think being a Good Mother entails? How have your views changed before and after you had kids or pets? As always, tell me what you’re reading and enjoy!